6 Simple Ways to Support your Children through Separation and Divorce
- While honesty and openness is important, children don’t need to know everything about the relationship break up. Particularly where the separation has been difficult or court proceedings are involved, try shield your children from knowing every detail and allow them to get on with their own lives.
- Even though adults make the decisions, children need to feel that their wishes are taken seriously. Try to prioritise your children’s needs wherever possible.
- It’s okay for your children to love both their parents. Make sure that they know this.
- Being polite and cordial to the other parent in the presence of your children will go a long way towards maintaining their respect and esteem for you.
- Children need predictable routines and reliable rules, but they also need time to relax and have fun. It’s often during these moments that they find it easiest to talk about how they are feeling. Try to make room for some downtime during your busy schedules.
- Remember that all children are different. Some will find it easier to transition between homes whilst others may find their new family life difficult and confusing. If your children don’t seem to be coping with the new arrangements, talk to the other parent, your child’s teachers or the student welfare coordinator at school about how to help them and if necessary seek professional assistance.